youcallingmyname Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 I’m not here for these streets it seems. A guy from a different country has been wooing me and everything. And before anyone thinks catfish, we already have seen each other on video and he’s legit. The only issue is if we were to date, he asked what I feel about having an open relationship. I was always someone who fantasized of a monogamous relationship, the straight fairytale type of life. A kid or too, nice house, making have a bbq on the weekends and a low key vibe, maybe have a few friends over. So when he asked me this I kind of went into panic mode. Now, it’s too early for me to say but I can see him and I in a ltr. So,should I get over this? What is y’all’s advice.
Rotunda Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 1) how long have y’all been talking? 2) what is your past relationship history?
Oktober Knight Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 It's not for everybody. If you truly don't feel comfortable doing it or get jealous easily, then I'd steer clear. If it's something you're willing to try, give it a shot and see what happens.
aesthetic bih Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 If it makes you panic, then he is not for you I fear. Say no and see what his reaction will be lol
L.B GAGA Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 You are already incompatible. Learn to put yourself first. Dont force those feet into cinderella's shoes, it just aint yours.
ATRL Moderator Bloo Posted February 10, 2023 ATRL Moderator Posted February 10, 2023 If you don't want an open relationship then don't be in one. It is not for everybody and trying to force it to fit you is ill-advised and unhelpful. It's important to be upfront about what you want out of a relationship.
Asparagus Spears Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 You have to be mature to handle an open relationship. You also have to be honest. If you can be both of those things, you can handle an open relationship.
Illuminati Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 Well for starters I don't think you will be having children with an online boyfriend sis but open relationships only work if both people are into it. Otherwise you will always feel cheated on or vice versa. It's why so many straights who try the open relationship or open marriage are really miserable because it's usually forced upon by one of the partners
CristianGarcia Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 He’s from a different country and he prbly rarely see’s you. I would take it he’s been messing with other guys anyways and can you blame him. Save yourself and stay single.
brenda-walsh Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 don't do it unless you really want to. and if you two live in separate countries don't even get into a relationship with him, let alone an open relationship
SchmoodRing Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 2 hours ago, selena_lavigne said: listen to your c*ck. they want a relationship not a lay. 2 hours ago, youcallingmyname said: I was always someone who fantasized of a monogamous relationship, the straight fairytale type of life. A kid or too, nice house, making have a bbq on the weekends and a low key vibe, maybe have a few friends over. i hate this narrative that this is a straight thing only. we gay deserves kids and families too. 1 hour ago, L.B GAGA said: You are already incompatible. Learn to put yourself first. Dont force those feet into cinderella's shoes, it just aint yours. your avi picture is so cute and goals <3 1 hour ago, Asparagus Spears said: You have to be mature to handle an open relationship. You also have to be honest. If you can be both of those things, you can handle an open relationship. mature? lol i think to maintain any relationship it requires maturity and honesty 1 hour ago, Illuminati said: Well for starters I don't think you will be having children with an online boyfriend sis but open relationships only work if both people are into it. Otherwise you will always feel cheated on or vice versa. It's why so many straights who try the open relationship or open marriage are really miserable because it's usually forced upon by one of the partners is that manuel turizo in your avi?
selena_lavigne Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 10 minutes ago, SchmoodRing said: they want a relationship not a lay. isn't a lay just like a very short relationship?
selena_lavigne Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 isn't sex one of the activities you can choose to do when you hang out with someone? and that's what sex is? a hang out session? that's how i view it
selena_lavigne Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 Just now, nasa said: f*cking never dump him
selena_lavigne Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 see i can write a whole essay on this but my thing is, all relationships are open until you close them. and until you are in a committed relationship you are actually in an open relationship with all of your partners
selena_lavigne Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 this committed relationship could be between just you and one other person, or you and several people and i would still consider it a committed relationship if you are committing to those people
Donquizote Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 The fact that people can date someone else just by chatting through internet. I can't
Bloodflowers. Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 (edited) Open "relationship" isn't a relationship. Cut him off, especially since you want to have a family one day and live a meaningful life, find someone who wants to enjoy having romantic and communicative time with you and build a life together with you. Edited February 10, 2023 by Bloodflowers.
ks_dollar Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 DON'T do it, no matter how much you like him.
A.R.L Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 It's there and it's pretty normal, but it makes sense when it's a relationship where the 2 live with each other and consider themselves the main parts of that relationship, and let's say from time to time, they both enjoy getting together with different guys for fun. You can do it outside of where both of you live tho, tbh it would be so much better than having someone cheat on you which is what happens most of the time.
Oktober Knight Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 7 hours ago, Bloodflowers. said: Open "relationship" isn't a relationship. Cut him off, especially since you want to have a family one day and live a meaningful life, find someone who wants to enjoy having romantic and communicative time with you and build a life together with you. This isn't really fair to say. Open relationships can work, it just has to be 100% mutual. But to say a couple is not in a real relationship because they sleep with others even though they love each other and come home every night isn't true.
UnusualBoy Posted February 10, 2023 Posted February 10, 2023 It seems that it's not for you so don't force it or you'll get hurt. I for one think an open relationship is a excuse to ***** around without feeling bad about it and no ma'am, if you like or love me but want to **** other people too, you may as well find someone else because I'm not going through that...
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