Patrick's point is kind of ridiculous. No one saying to make music lame, just that a lot of the sexuality isn't needed. Plus he intentionally sought out the corniest video to back his point.

Anyway bit of sexiness I can appreciate (ex. Single Ladies video, Sweet Dreams video, Fergie in the Imma Be video, Pussycat Dolls When I Grow Up vid, Ciara Work vid, etc.). Even more sexiness is cool too as long it's not excessive (ex. Britney Spears Slave 4 U video, Video Phone video).
I just don't want the stuff thrown heavily in my face (ex. Not Myself Tonight video, Alejandro bed scenes) and all the damn time.
Britney's Slave 4 U is the sexist vid that I've seen that is perfectly done.

It's not gross, excessive, or or "wtf."
Same deal goes for live performances and promo photos, etc.